Greiving

Some of you may know that my beloved Muchka passed away a week ago.  He was such an amazing dog and a loyal friend to me.  He always wanted to be part of any spiritual work I was doing.  He would come and just snore at my feet while I was recording.  He would also drive me crazy at times, teaching me to feel my feelings and to allow myself to be calm and patient.  

I have a brother and father that have crossed over and I have experienced miscarriages.  Loss and grieving is something I am familiar with.  What is interesting for me now is how I am grieving this time around.  I see it as a change in relationship with him rather than a loss.  

We are simply changing our relationship to one that is more spiritual.  

Muchka was my baby and I miss having him in my arms. Its the physical that I miss, the everyday moments and routine that he was a part of.   

Everything in life is mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.  Some things are all four, some things are only one or two but everything falls into at least one of those categories.    

 As I am grieving I am grieving the physical, the touch of his fur, the sight of him when I come home.  The physical is what is really lost.  However, what is gained is our spiritual relationship is way more present.  I feel him by me, he sends me messages and he is becoming a guide for me. I have not had this before with others that have crossed over.  I may receive a little message here or there from them but nothing like I am experiencing now.  

 I know many of you reading this have or are grieving and it's so, so difficult.  There is nothing like it because there was nothing like the relationship that you had for the one you are grieving for.  They are irreplaceable, and there is nothing we can do to bring them back into our arms.

 Many people have come to me asking to connect to their loved ones that have crossed over.  What I have learned is there is so much love.  So much love on both sides.  They care as deeply about us as we do them. 

What hurts the most is the lack of physical contact, the one more hug, the one more day together that cannot happen in this lifetime.  

 The physical is gone but the spiritual, mental or the emotional gets stronger.  You don’t have to have the gift of mediumship to feel them or just know they are there.  Your relationship to them was one that is unique and one that is strong.  We tend to doubt ourselves and want validation but you know.  If you are grieving, trust yourself, trust if you see a cardinal and they make you think of your loved one.  Trust what makes you think of them that they are saying hi, they are okay and they love you.  

 Feel your feelings, allow them to be, be gentle with yourself.  This means, don’t beat yourself or be hard on yourself.  Allow the stages of grief no matter who or what you are grieving for.  

 If you find yourself wallowing or going into depression, talk to those around you or see a person that can help you.  Grieving takes time and it comes in waves because it is emotional.  Emotions almost always come in waves, whether it is waves like a stream or the ocean.   

 For me the firsts have always been really hard, the first time I have gone for a walk without my boy.  However, I find that by doing the things I enjoy it gets easier and I remember the good times.  I remember how he had a good life, and how he brought joy into my life.  

 Grief is a transition and our lives look so much different without the ones that we loved in physical form by our side.  Everyone grieves differently and each time we grieve it's different because our relationship to the one that crossed over is different.  

 The memories that make me smile because I did get to hold him in my arms.